Marriage Myths Part 1: Love, Communication & Covenant
By Anthony Braswell & Shannen Fields-Braswell
We all enter marriage with invisible expectations:
- “My spouse should just know what I need.”
- “Love will fix everything.”
- “If it’s meant to be, it’ll be easy.”
The truth? Those are marriage myths and believing them can quietly erode your relationship.
In Part 1 of The Uncover Marriage Podcast on Marriage Myths, we uncover the most common misconceptions and share God’s truth for building a Christ-centered, covenant marriage.
🎧 Listen here: Marriage Myths Part 1
Marriage Myth #1: “If my spouse really loves me, they’ll know what I need.”
Even the closest couples can’t read minds. Love languages shift, seasons change, and intimacy thrives only when we talk openly about our hearts, desires, and boundaries.
“You can’t meet unspoken expectations. Communication is love in action.”
Ask your spouse: “What do you need more of? Less of?” Honest communication keeps love alive.
Marriage Myth #2: “Marriage will fix what’s wrong in our relationship.”
Marriage doesn’t heal your wounds, it reveals them. But when we bring our struggles to God, He uses marriage to refine us, teaching patience, grace, and humility.
“Marriage in the hands of God is a tool that shapes us into His likeness.”
Marriage Myth #3: “Healthy marriages are conflict-free.”
Conflict is normal, it’s human. The goal isn’t to avoid it, but to handle disagreements God’s way:
- Listen first.
- Speak with kindness.
- Protect your hearts.
“Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19-20
Marriage Myth #4: “My spouse should complete me.”
Only Jesus completes you. Your spouse complements, supports, and strengthens, but they don’t make you whole. A COVENANT marriage (not a contract) is a union of THREE. When we come together as husband and wife with Jesus as our foundation, we are truly complete. We are also a powerful force that the Holy Spirit can use as a beacon of light in the world for Jesus!
Marriage Myth #5: “Marriage is 50/50.”
Covenant love requires 100/100. Give your all: heart, time, energy, and soul. Marriage isn’t about convenience; it’s about commitment under God.
“Covenant love says, ‘I’m all in, no escape route.’”
Practical Takeaways: Part 1
- Talk openly and honestly.
- Let God refine you through marriage.
- Handle conflict with grace.
- Focus on complementing, not completing.
- Give fully in covenant love.
🎧 Don’t miss Part 2: Marriage Myths Part 2
Bible Reading Plan: Building a Christ-Centered Marriage (Part 1)
- Day 1 – Foundation in Jesus – Matthew 7:24-25
- Day 2 – Pursuing Each Other – Song of Solomon 2:16
- Day 3 – Persevering Through Challenges – James 1:2-4
- Day 4 – Speaking Life – Proverbs 18:21
Reflect daily, pray together, and take action to live these truths.
